Dress-up: Unwrapped

Tie me up, tie me down!

Anybody into bondage? No!?!? Are you sure? S&M gets a bad rap. It doesn't have to be all whips, chains and latex body suits. A little sub/dom play can be soft, silky and fun!

The geniuses over at Liberator.com have these great Silk Binding Sashes! Retailing at $79, their Deluxe Kit comes with three 7' sashes and two 14' sashes. They come in three colors: champagne, crimson and black. You can use these bands of silk to simply tie someone to the bed post or you could get really creative and craft intricate knots and bindings as in the illustration above. If you can't swing the $79 you could hit up you man's closet and steal some ties, though, depending on how uh... vigorous your playtime is you may want to hit up the thrift store so you don't have to worry about stretching out your man's new Ike Behar neckwear or explaining any stains at the dry cleaners.

Loosen up, shake off your inhibitions, pick a "safe word" and give it a try! Everything is better with a bow on it!

Toybox: Clone-A-Willy

It's My Dick in a BOX!

Some women are adverse to toys because they want the real thing. Well... it's not always possible but here's the next best thing:

Clone-A-Willy!

The Clone-A-Willy kit allows you to create a detailed replica of a man's penis in minutes. The kit will duplicate every curve, bend and vein. The resulting toy can then be used at your leisure. Retailing at $40, whether you just feel like nothing hits your spot like you man's muscle and you'd like to have a back-up, or you want to start a "trophy" collection, this is one of those things that just sounds like fun to try. If your man is intimidated by the "size" of most toys, now he has no need to be jealous or insecure.

Still skeptical... What if I told you there was a glow-in-the-dark version available? You KNOW that made you giggle! LOL!

Freaky Friday: Stapleton Sex

Ooooo... you so NASTY!

Okay, so you have to check out Ghostface's new single Stapleton Sex. Not since Akinyele has a man been so graphic and foward about his sexual desires, using such lewd language, over so smooth of a track.

Society says I should be offended but somehow I'm kinda turned on. Check out the video (Seriously NSFW):

Ghostface Killah - Stapleton Sex (2009)

Bedtime Stories: Blowing his Mind

Blowing his Mind

by AfroerotiK©

The beauty of our relationship is the perfect balance we've achieved. He cooks, I clean. He can invite the boys over to play Madden football and never hear a peep out of me. I can host my book club every month without any hassle. He'll even make us a fabulous lunch to boot. We work together, play together, pray together, and our sex life is out of this world.

We were sitting back, watching TV like any ordinary evening and I decided that I wanted to step things up a notch. "Sweetie, would you like another glass of wine," I asked, knowing full well that it was something else entirely I had in mind to drink. He kissed me on my neck and said, "Thanks babe," as I wiggled out of his arms and headed for the kitchen. I took a little detour and headed for the bedroom for a change of wardrobe. When I came back, I stood directly in front of the TV with a simple, elegant red silk nightie and matching heels.

He reached for the remote and clicked the TV off, leaving us bathed in the light of a single white candle. I took his strong hand in mine and pulled him to me. I wrapped my arms around his neck and we kissed as he filled his hands with the fullness of my ass. I kissed my way down his neck and across his shoulders. For a brief moment, he tried to head us toward the bedroom but I would have no such thing. I stopped him right there and knelt in front of him.

Kneeling before him, I pulled the string to his sweats and let them fall to the floor. He stepped out of them and kicked them to the side. His dick was already starting to get engorged and throb. Softly, gently, I took it in my hands and brought the head to my mouth. I felt his hands caress my head and shoulders as I surveyed my prize. Teasingly, I let my tongue tenderly touch the slit, sending shivers down his spine. I rolled his balls around in my fingers and began to explore his growing erection further with my tongue.

From base to head, I licked. I used my mouth to explore every millimeter of his thickening tool until he was as hard as a rock and ready for more. When I placed the head in my mouth, I heard him let out a gentle moan. My objective was for him to let out quite a bit more than a moan so I continued to pleasure him with my mouth and tongue. I slid my soft, full lips down his shaft and back again, looking up at him with a wink. I could feel his knees buckle just a bit as I did it once more, this time, just a bit harder. I wanted to let him know exactly who was in control.

His precum was leaking and he kept saying, "Oh shit, don't stop, that feels so good" so I knew he was ready for everything I had to give. I took his dick in my mouth and swallowed him whole, the head of his dick deep in my throat. I grabbed his ass just as he tried to push me away. He never wants to cum before me so his instinct is always to make me stop before he nuts. Grabbing the base of his thickness, I looked up at him and I said, "Cum in my mouth."

I really shouldn't have been so cruel because I know all his triggers and every time I he would get close to eruption, I would stop. I sucked his dick, licked it, I swallowed it and begged for more. The room filled with his chanting and moaning and the sounds of my sloppy, wet blowjob. I lowered the straps of my lingerie and he filled his hands with my full breasts, kneading them and softly pinching my hardened nipples. I moaned around his dick and slid my finger between my moist folds of my pussy to give him a little taste. For a brief moment, he sucked my finger like I was sucking his dick.

I knew it wouldn't be long so I used every trick in the book I had. I licked, I sucked, I licked some more. "Come on baby, give it to me. Shoot your hot cum in my mouth. Mmmm, let me taste it. Come on baby, fuck my mouth." I deep throated his dick and pushed against his spot and he exploded in my mouth, falling back on the sofa out of pure exhaustion, whimpering like a baby, satisfied like a man.

Dress-up: KISS (Keep it Simple Stupid)

Is anybody else broke?

Lingerie is expensive and we are in a recession. Sometimes dressing up is about what you don't wear. Next time you want to jazz things up a bit try focusing on just one accessory.

Ladies, greet your man wearing just a pair of killer stilettos, or a long pearl necklace *pause* or even knee high socks. Keep it simple. You could even try on something of theirs like a hat, a favorite tie, or even their watch. Throw on their favorite chain/necklace and lay in the bed fingering it playfully (THE CHAIN!... though... on second thought, that would work too) and give them the come get it look. If it's dinner time, wear just an apron. There are outfits all over your house, you just have to put some thought into it.

Top off your look by glamming up your make-up so you're boudoir beautiful. You don't want to over do it, again keep it simple...

For an" innocent" look... put some white liner on the outer corners of your eyes to widen them, dust on a some translucent powder for a little shimmer, and finish with a subtle tinted gloss.

For a "naughty" look... neatly line your eyes with a black creme liner, give your lashes some boost with some mascara (try Maybelline XXL Curl Power... it gives volume, length and curl!!), use some translucent powder for shimmer, and finish with a rich, 'come fuck me' lipstick (my fave is Diablo by Nars).

Oh... and do your nails!!!

PS: For my male readers who want to get in on the action, two words: bow tie!

Toybox: We-Vibe

Let's play... together!

For those looking to add a little more motion to the ocean and rock the boat a bit, the We-Vibe may be the toy you've been looking for. The We-Vibe combines several toys in one. This pocket sized vibrator is made from surgical grade silicone making it soft and flexible and is curved to fit a woman's body, providing both internal and external stimulation. It is designed so that when inserted, the larger of the two vibrating pads fits comfortably over the clitoris while the smaller rests inside the woman against the g-spot. The toy is slender enough that it can be worn during sex, providing stimulation for both partners (click here for a diagram... NSFW).

The We-Vibe is rechargeable, hands free AND waterproof. This purple plaything would be great for women or men looking to introduce toys into the bedroom for the first time. It's small, non-intimidating and hits all the right spots.

This toy is on the expensive side, retailing at $129.95, but with some web searching you can find it as cheap as $69.95.

Ask Cherry: Maintenance Fees

Dear Cherry,

It's a recession and I'm trying to save money. But I have new boo. Can you tell me what maintenance items are unacceptable to cut from my routine? I've been stretching my pedi's and brow work. Those can't and shouldn't be eliminated right?? What about those expensive teeth whitening strips? Or those fabulous salt scrubs from The Body Shop? Or all of the plug-ins strategically placed around my apartment...

Help!

- True Beauty on a Budget

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Dear Beauty,

Girl... I feel your pain. Primpin' ain't easy; especially in this economy.

My first suggestion is to skip the salon & and spa and DIY! From mani/pedi's to bikini waxes, you can save lots of $$$ by spending a little extra time taking care of yourself, yourself. To get you started I'll refer you to the lovely people over at Bella Sugar. They have complied a great list of DIY Spa Treatments including a good homemade body scrub. For your brows I suggest threading. There are lots of places that can hook you up for about $8 (NYC) - $12 (DC). Personally I've had better luck doing my own touch ups between threadings than w/ waxing. For DIY teeth whitening check out this article from Health.com

Things to nix: ACRYLIC NAILS!!! BOOO!!!! If you have them (this goes for all ladies, not just Beauty) let them GO! Fake nails are so Prom '98. If you suffer from weak or brittle nails, invest in some Duri Rejuvacote. Within two months I promise you you'll have killer nails and extra money in your wallet.

If you're shelling out lots of money on make-up I suggest checking out e.l.f. cosmetics. They sell awesome, yet dirt cheap make-up. Before purchasing any make-up, try it on using Instyle's Hollywood Makeover -- it's the best thing ever! Simply upload a picture of yourself and you can try various brands of different types of make up in numerous shades. If you're a salon quality product whore (I know I am!) hit up your local Marshall's, TJ Maxx, or Loehmann's. They carry all types of high-end haircare and skincare products for cheap.

Did I cover everything... oh, Plug-Ins!... Ditch the Plug-Ins! I have no idea WHY they are so expensive but even on sale w/ a coupon the nice ones that don't smell terrible can run you like $6 a pack. I suggest picking a concentrated Room Spray at Bath and Body Works or Pier 1. They retail at $5 and $6 respectively, and last forever. Unlike a Plug-In that runs all day, you just spray these when you need it. All it takes is a little spritz in each corner of the room and you're good for the rest of the day. I've had the same can for the past 3 years and it's still 1/2 full.

The most important thing is to de-stress as opposed to being in distress. Remember that you don't have to do EVERYTHING yourself, but even if you pick two things you can do at home that's a start, or alternate... I get spa pedi's maybe 3 times a year and then DIY in between.

I hope this helps you keep some ducats in your pockets!

- Cherry