Freaky Friday: Dutty Fridaze

One word: RECKLESS!

Quote of the week - "A party don't start til a dude throws a table at you!"

Ask Cherry: Who's Got Questions???

**crickets**

Okay so I know people are reading and I'm sure some of you have some questions, so stop pussyfooting around and drop me a line...  

I won't name names... I promise!!

So come on and ask... you know you want to!

cherryvirtuocity@gmail.com

Bedtime Stories: The Secretary

For those who are more visual creatures...

For this week's bedtime story I've chosen a clip from one of my favorite movies, The Secretary.

Enjoy:

Dress-up: Legware

She's got legs... knows how to use them!

Am I the only one who remembers that old ZZ Top song?  I hope not...  Anyways, today I'd like to talk about legware.  Now I know some women are scared of any type of stocking like item that isn't sold by Spanx, but trust me ladies, you too can wear garters and the like.  I've converted plenty of women and you self-doubters out there are no different.  The problem with stockings isn't you, it's sizing.

Here's the scenario:  You're in Victoria's Secret.  It's the Semi-Annual Sale.  You find some great, naughty, frilly thing w/ garters, in your size that's priced so low you can't put it down.  You walk over to the stocking section and start looking for your size and you discover that there are plenty A's and B's but not one size C or D.  OR, they only have a C in a terrible color, or, as is usually my case, you get home and they lied.  Size D does NOT fit women up to 5'9" tall, let alone my 5'8" frame.

Buying garter stockings is just like buying any thing else that goes on your lower half.... they're made for imaginary women who are about 5'4" with super slender thighs.  Most of us do not fit that profile.

The solution:  StockinGirl.com!

I stumbled across this site last year and it's been a favorite of mine ever since.  They sell reasonably priced garter stockings in tall and queen sizes, in a variety of styles and colors.  They also have some cute little outfits and good sales as well.

On top of garter stockings they also have a multitude of other legware available from socks to leggings in all types of patterns.

I'm a big fan of legware.  It adds punch to any ensemble and at times can make a naughty outfit. Don't believe me?  Next time you're hanging around the house w/ your honey, throw on snug beater, a pair of boy shorts and a pair of knee high slouch socks, or better yet, a pair of argyle, schoolgirlesq knee socks and some lip gloss and see what happens...

You'll thank me later ;)

Toybox: Sex Stool

Damn I need to go to the gym...

Every woman has thought it once or twice during any extended and/or physically demanding session.  It's not that you're out of shape, but unlike porn actresses, you don't squat for a living. Yes, sometimes you want to feel the burn and it hurts so good, but that burning sensation in your quads is not cool (can I get an "Amen"?)

Pipedream Products has come up with the perfect solution:  The Incredible Sex Stool!

Looks simple doesn't it?  A part of the Fetish Fantasy Series, this little stool can provide a lot of support (see the website for suggested positions... you may want to check this out from your home computer).  The frame is constructed with heavy duty steel and seat is made of Thermoplastic Polyurethane (TPU).  Yeah, I had no clue what that was and had to look it up... basically TPU is kinda like rubber, but better because it's flexible but resistant to cuts, tears, abrasions, impact and chemicals.  This thing is super sturdy and can hold up to 300lbs.  Basically the stool can take it as rough as you can.

The opening in the seat allows you to straddle/mount your partner, using the stool for support, but still allows for close contact and deep penetration (doesn't that sound wonderful!)

The stool is available from a variety outlets.  Prices range anywhere from $67-110, so if you're interested in adding this piece of furniture to your collection, I suggest shopping around to get the best deal.

Bally's be damned... get the stool and GET IT IN!!!

Freaky Friday: Bobbing for Apples

Here's a little giggle to get ya goin:

(click the image below to view video)

Ask Cherry: Take That! Take That!

Hey Cherry!

Anal sex is definitely something women shy away from, and with good reason. Many a man (or woman ;-) ) get too anxious and try the ramming approach, rather than the slow motion route. Any advice on how to prep and go about enjoyable anal sex?

 

Thanks a bunch!

 

Cocoa Bisou

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Dear Cocoa,

The ramming approach is definitely a no no!  Knowledge and prep work are the keys to enjoyable anal sex and SAFE anal sex.  What makes anal sex so uncomfortable (or can make it flat out painful) is the sphincter muscle.  There's two parts to it, the inner and the outer, sphincter.  Both sphincter muscles stretch but the inner one is much tighter and requires a lot more "work" to loosen up.  So some men may take their time and get the "tip" in and then think it's all good to go ramming away, but really they've only conquered the first battle... there's a tougher one ahead.  Ramming away can do irreparable damage to your tushy.  If you force things in involuntarily, it can lead to them coming out involuntarily... BAD LOOK!

To make this easy let me just give a few general tips:

• HAVE YOU HAD YOUR #2 TODAY?!?!:  I know... gross, but it's a very VERY important and valid question.  If you're not too keen on the idea of sticking something in your ass then I'm sure you're probably worried about something coming out of it when and if you do.  I honestly suggest before any sort of sexual activity you make sure that you "clear the way". It's a good habit.   So if you can plan ahead, have a high fiber cereal for breakfast.  (I would caution against doing any sort of enema or anything immediately beforehand because it can cause more irritation than good)

• RELAX:  The sphincter is a muscle and it constricts so you've gotta calm down.  Yes, he/she wants to put it (whatever "it" might be) in there... are you okay w/ trying that?  If your answer is yes, then look him/her directly in the eye, take a hold of "it" (that will generally give you their full attention) and let them know that you're down, but they need to move at your speed and TAKE THEIR TIME.  Then, you take a deep breath and try to relax your ass (and by ass I mean literally your anus).  If you're still feeling a little tense tell them to use their tongue first... that will definitely get you more relaxed (no?!)

• LUBRICATION:  Man oh man, I can't say enough about lubrication.  Men don't seem to understand that unlike the kitty, the booty does not self-lubricate.  Also, the kitty is not a fountain from which astroglide flows.  They can't just dip in and then use whatever they find to help lubricate your anus.  Not if they're trying to put more than a finger or two in there.  You'll want to get a high-grade, water-based lubricant.  Anything greasy will breakdown the latex in your toys and/or condom rendering it useless.  I suggest KY or Astroglide.  Both are available at your neighborhood grocery store.

• START SLOW, START SMALL:  As I said the sphincter has to be loosened up.  I'd suggest starting with a finger (make sure the nails are trimmed... no coke nails, lee press-ons or acrylics allowed!!).  Lube it up and begin to work that in and out slowly, and pressing lightly from side to side.  The resistance he/she feels on the sides is the sphincter.  Your partner should be able to feel both the inner and outer sphincter and the difference in the tension of both.  Start with one finger, then two, then more if you feel comfortable.  From there you can graduate to maybe a small butt plug or dildo.

• ARE YOU READY YET!?!?:  Only you can decide when you're ready to put whatever "it" is in your ass.  Toys and penises come in different shapes and sizes.  It's ultimately up to you to decide how big is too big.

I think that's enough to get you started.  As always, if you're not comfortable and you think you don't want to try, then don't.  If your partner isn't will to take the time to do it right, then you shouldn't do them... ever again!

Have fun and don't forget... LUBE LUBE LUBE LUBE!!!!!

- Cherry